Not long ago, we delved into the deepest secrets of our female readers, uncovering their favourite fantasies and the intriguing experiences that followed, ranging from triumphant successes to unexpected surprises. Now, it's the gents' turn to spill the beans!
In the spirit of openness and curiosity, we've invited our male readers to share their most clandestine desires. While some fantasies, like threesomes or escapades in unusual places, might sound familiar, brace yourselves for some more unexpected and juicy revelations.
1. Anal Sex
Anal play, often seen as uncharted or taboo territory, holds a prominent place in the male erotic imagination. According to a Women’s Health poll, about 36.5% of women have experimented with anal play with their partner. But what about the rest?
The influence of pornography on male fantasies is undeniable. The frequent portrayal of anal penetration in adult films might lead some men to believe that this practice is commonplace. However, the reality is more nuanced and personal.
For those eager to learn more about how to approach this practice safely and respectfully, we invite you to check out our comprehensive guide on anal play. This guide offers practical advice and essential information for a fulfilling exploration that respects each partner's desires.
2. Spanking
Spanking, a fantasy that mixes submission with intense physical stimulation, holds an intriguing spot in male desires. For some, the appeal of spanking lies in the desire to be dominated by their partner, exploring a more passive role, and being guided in intimate moments.
If the idea of receiving a spanking intrigues you, it's vital to openly discuss this desire with your partner.
For those looking to learn more about how to engage in spanking safely and enjoyably, we recommend checking out our dedicated guide. Our practical guide on spanking is filled with tips and advice for incorporating this practice into your intimate life while respecting each other's boundaries and comfort.
3. Sleeping With a Prostitute
This fantasy might also arise from a hesitance towards romantic intimacy. Engaging with an escort allows for the exploration of sexual desires without the emotional entanglements that typically come with a relationship. It offers a space to voice desires that might seem too bold or unconventional in a regular partnership.
4. Voyeurism
Voyeurism, the fantasy of watching others in their amorous escapades, can take various forms: observing another couple making love, listening to distant encounters, or even hearing about sexual experiences. While the idea might seem odd to some, it's important to remember that watching pornography is, in itself, a form of voyeurism. Thus, this fantasy is more common than many might think.
This desire is often driven by the quest for a different sexual experience, a way to experience sexuality from a new and thrilling perspective. Voyeurism offers a unique viewpoint, a thrill that comes from observation without direct participation.
5. Watching His Partner Sleep With Another Woman
The fantasy of watching one's partner with another woman is a recurring theme in the male erotic imagination, often influenced by pornography. Indeed, lesbian scenes are among the most popular searches on online platforms, reflecting a significant interest in this dynamic.
6. Sleeping With His Best Friend’s Girl
7. Swallowing
Swallowing, or the act of ingesting semen after oral sex, is a common fantasy among many men. This desire is often driven by the fact that several partners choose not to swallow, either by spitting out the semen after the act or preferring ejaculation outside the mouth.
If you're keen to explore this fantasy but your partner isn't comfortable with the idea, there are alternatives. Using a condom during oral sex allows for ejaculation in the mouth without the partner directly feeling the semen. Additionally, for those looking to recreate this experience solo or as a couple, specialised sex toys like a masturbator or a blowjob doll can simulate the act.
8. Sleeping With His Professor
The fantasy of sleeping with a teacher is a staple in the male erotic imagination. It often revolves around the scenario of a somewhat lazy student in need of a "lesson" from his educator. This fantasy is rooted in the dynamics of authority and submission, a mix that can be incredibly arousing for some.
It also plays on the taboo and the forbidden, as such relationships are generally not permitted, or at least not condoned, in an academic setting. For some men, this fantasy might also be linked to an attraction to intelligence, or even sapiosexuality – the sexual attraction to a person's intellect.
9. Bonus fantasy: Threesomes
When it comes to sex, the threesome is often considered to be at the peak of daring and exploration. This fantasy represents the possibility of enjoying shared intimacy amongst three people, mixing excitement and complicity with the ultimate challenge. For many men, it’s seen as an opportunity to widen erotic horizons, all whilst redefining the rules of shared pleasure.
Antoine, 33, reveals to us: “I’ve always been intrigued by the idea of a threesome. Me and my partner recently decided to take the plunge and try it out with someone we trust. The experience didn’t just reignite the spark in our sex life, but it also improved communication and strengthened the bond between us. Trusting your partner, listening to one another, and preparing before-hand are all necessary steps for a threesome.”
Before jumping right into such an experience, it’s imperative that you and your partner talk openly about the situation, as well as, of course, also discussing everything with the third person involved. A successful threesome is built on three important values:
- Communication: Explain clearly what your expectations and your limits are.
- Consent: Make sure that everyone involved is in full agreement, this consent must be given freely and without pressure.
- Preparation: Opt for an environment that everyone feels comfortable in, whether that be somewhere private or a more neutral environment.
There are many reasons people like to test out this fantasy: for some, it’s more of a fun, one time thing, whereas for others, it becomes a more regular way to explore their sexuality. However, you must always take care to make sure that this experience is one that incites pleasure and feelings of well-being for everyone involved.
For couples who may feel a little hesitant at the thought of welcoming a third person into the bedroom, there is another playful way that exists for you to simulate the threesome experience. Experimenting with sex toys, such as blow-up doll, butt, or sex torso, are perfect for recreating that group setting at a gentler pace. This approach will offer you the opportunity to discover new sensations, letting you get used to a new dynamic in the bedroom, all whilst allowing you to maintain full control, as well as preparing the terrain for an eventual third person.
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If the idea of having a threesome arouses your interest, take some time to discuss it with your partner in order to ensure the experience will be a positive one in which each person's desires are respected. For more practical advice and extra tips on the topic of threesomes, take a look at our guide: The Golden Rules of Having a Threesome.