How to Spank Your Partner: The Essential Guide

The LOVE Team has whipped up this essential guide to help you spank your partner, whether you are a beginner or an expert.

First of all, you and your partner should discuss your respective desires and boundaries. Make sure you both want to share the experience and agree on the intensity and frequency of your spanking sessions.

During spanking sessions, the surrounding environment can have a direct influence on the intensity as well as the quality of your experience. Dim the lights: light some candles, turn on a soft red light, or simply put your lamp on its lowest setting. This will create an intimate little bubble where each slapping sound becomes amplified. Create a playlist filled with sensual background music, this is perfect in helping you create a rhythm to your movements and also mask any sounds, ideal if you want to remain discreet during play time.

Don’t forget about temperature! A warm, cosy room will help relax muscles and make skin more responsive, whereas a blast of fresh air in between spanks can intensify sensations. Keep all necessary accessories on hand: a clean towel, a soothing gel made from arnica or aloe vera, and a glass of water for your partner. Organising beforehand builds trust and minimises the chance of killing the mood each time you have to get up to grab something that’s missing.

By transforming your bog standard space into the centre stage for erotic play, you give way for your senses (sight, hearing and even smell) to take part in the experience, making every spank, every moment of reprieve, every touch unforgettable.

Choosing a position that is comfortable for your partner will make the experience more enjoyable. Here are the most popular spanking positions:

• Kneeling: The spankee kneels and bends forward slightly to receive the spanking.
• Standing: The spankee stands with their hands on their hips or leaning against a wall.
• Reclining: The spankee reclines on a bed or sofa.
• On all fours: The spankee is on all fours and leans forward slightly to receive the spanking.

Remember that comfort is important. For example, use a cushion to make the spankee feel comfortable. The position you choose should not cause back or joint pain.

Be flexible: change positions if one of you is uncomfortable. The aim is to find the best way to give and receive pleasure together in complete safety.

Before you spank your partner, you should test the force and pressure you intend to use. This will help you avoid accidentally hurting your spankee. Start gently, using your hand or a towel. Consider your partner's reactions and ask them if they’re enjoying your technique. Remember to always respect the boundaries you’ve set.

Spanking can be painful. Ask your partner which parts of their body are most sensitive and avoid touching them. Continue these rehearsals for as long as necessary until you feel confident and ready to do it for real. Communication is the key to any sexual relationship!

Start your spanking session using gentle pressure and gradually increase the power and speed according to your partner’s reactions. Above all, listen to the spankee and take into account any signs of discomfort. If the pain becomes too great, stop immediately.

If your partner is clearly enjoying the experience, change your technique to switch things up and to avoid tiring yourself out. Remember to keep talking throughout the session!

Here are some examples of common spanking toys:

• A paddle: A flat, soft toy, usually made of wood or leather, used for spanking. The strokes are more intense than those delivered by hand.
• A whip: A toy, usually made of leather, used to hit the spankee from a distance. The strokes are lighter than those delivered by hand or with a paddle.
• A flogger: a toy, usually made of leather, which allows for more intense strokes. It can also be used to gently caress your partner's body with the fronds.

Remember that it is important to use these objects carefully and keep communicating while using these toys to make sure your partner is enjoying the session.

When your spanking session is over, take some time to discuss the feelings you experienced during the session. This will ensure that the pleasure was shared by your partner and allow you to think about how to make things better next time, in case you’d like to try again.

Finally, spend some quality time with your partner afterwards. Massage them to release the tension and strengthen the intimate bond between you, so you'll be ready to get cracking again soon!