1. Having Sex With Another Woman
Sex with another woman is one of the most common fantasies for straight women. However, fantasising about another woman doesn’t mean that you’re gay: many women are simply attracted to exploring a female body that is identical to their own, yet so different.
The desire for a new experience or to escape an old routine can sometimes be the source of these fantasies. Penetration isn’t the only way to achieve orgasm, and some women want to try something new.
2. Having a Threesome With Two Men
While most people associate the fantasy of having a threesome with men, many women also dream of spending the night with two lovers. The feeling of being loved and appreciated by two people at the same time can be very exciting.
3. Experimenting With BDSM
The world of BDSM is fascinating and exciting. There have been numerous films and books dedicated to using handcuffs and whips, contributing to its popularity. Louise*, 41 years old, confides: "Before I saw 50 Shades of Grey, I didn’t know the first thing about bondage play. I drummed up enough courage to talk to my husband about it: it was the best decision of my life! Our sex life has become more fun than ever before and experimenting with BDSM has definitely strengthened our intimate bond. It was a bit scary at first, but now I can't imagine our sex life without it!”
If you want to start experimenting with BDSM, it is important to get your partner's consent. Make sure you discuss it with them and set boundaries that you won’t cross.
Start by buying sexy BDSM-themed toys and looking at books and websites. That way, you’ll learn about the different sides of BDSM and you’ll find out what suits you best.
Experimenting with BDSM will enhance your sex life, but remember to always respect your partner's limits. Respecting basic safety rules will always allow you to enjoy your experience to the full.
4. Having Sex With a Stranger
Remember, in real life, having sex with a stranger isn’t a risk-free affair. A safer alternative is to role-play with your partner. For example, you could pretend to meet for the first time in a bar, have a drink and then continue the adventure at home! Thrills and spills are guaranteed.
5. Having Sex in Public
Having sex in public despite the risk of being discovered is a common female fantasy. The idea alone is enough to increase the production of dopamine, a hormone associated with arousal and adrenaline. Maya*, 45, says: "With my husband, our sex life was boring and routine. We never left the bedroom and sex outside the bed was unthinkable. He suggested that we have sex in public one day. The idea seemed crazy to me, but I went along with it just to please him. We went to a nearby park at night. I started to give him head against a tree and he came almost immediately. A few seconds later, someone walked past us. They could have seen us, which really turned us on. We’re thinking of doing it again soon, this time in a more remote area!”.
6. Sleeping With Someone in Uniform
A woman’s attraction to a certain uniform is often an expression of the quality to which she is most attracted. For example, if you are attracted to firefighters, you probably value qualities such as courage and athleticism in your partner. Your preference for the white coat of a doctor reflects your need for your partner to take care of you.
To live out your fantasies, ask your partner to role play with you. Let your imagination guide you and set the scene for an exciting situation. Let's listen to Natalie, 38 years old: "For me, a police uniform is synonymous with strength and authority. My boyfriend, who is usually rather shy, dressed up as a policeman and was authoritative and bossy with me... I've never been so turned on!”
7. Watching Your Partner Have Sex With Another Woman
Cuckqueaning is when a woman is aroused by the thought of watching her partner have sex with another woman. Many women are horrified by the thought of their partner being unfaithful. This fantasy is certainly linked to a desire for humiliation and victimisation. So be careful about encouraging your partner to act on this fantasy and take the time to discuss it with him to make sure you are both on the same page.
8. Sleeping With a Star
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