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How to make your first time with another woman magical

Posted on 9 June 2023 by Natalia
How to make your first time with another woman magical
Darlings, let's talk firsts. Whether it's that first kiss beneath the twinkling fairy lights or the initial dip into a passion deeper than the Atlantic, these moments set the tone for a journey of self-discovery and intimacy. And let's be frank, who amongst us doesn't still get a little flutter when reminiscing about our very first romantic escapade? It’s akin to the opening chapter of a tantalising novel – one you’ll likely revisit for the rest of your life.
As we raise our glasses to celebrate Gay Pride Month this June, the ladies at LOVE are all agog and keen to help you navigate the beautiful tapestry of female love. Because, let’s be real: the connection between two women is unlike any other – it's enchanting, magnetic, and oh-so-mysterious.
But where to start? Perhaps you've heard whispers of the art of Shibari – that intricate dance of trust and ropes, weaving intimacy and connection. Before you dive into this mesmerising world, we're here to guide you, ensuring your first steps are as graceful as a ballet pirouette. Read on, and let's embark on this journey together, exploring the myriad ways two women can intertwine, both literally and figuratively.

Prepping for Your Debut in the World of Female Love

  • Dive into self-discovery: Before inviting someone else into your intimate world, understand your own passions and desires. Revel in self-exploration – whether it’s a caress that sends shivers down your spine or a particular touch that makes your heart race. When D-Day arrives, you'll be well-versed in your own symphony of pleasure, guiding your partner to hit all the right notes.
  • Your wishes, your command: Honey, remember you're in the driver's seat. Feeling the connection but not quite ready to take the plunge? That's absolutely okay. You're never under any obligation to press 'go'. Your feelings and comfort take centre stage. And, if at any point things don't feel right, you’ve got the power to hit the pause button.
  • Ease and breathe: Don't let the butterflies in your belly metamorphose into nerve-wracking dragons. Sip some chamomile, meditate, or simply engage in deep breathing – anything that helps you stay in the present. A relaxed mind ensures you cherish each magic-filled moment.
  • Commander-in-chief of your temple: It's your body, your sanctuary. Don't let anyone overstep or make you feel any less than regal. Setting boundaries isn't just okay, it's essential. Let your partner know your limits – communication is the golden key to a harmonious connection.
  • Savour the softness: Lovemaking isn’t a race; it’s a lyrical dance. From gentle kisses to lingering touches, there's poetry in every act. Don't rush. Let the crescendo of passion build at its own pace. Revel in the beauty of the now.

Exploring together: the beauty of mutual touch

Mutual masturbation: It's not just about self-love, darlings. Exploring each other's bodies in this manner is like embarking on a tantalising journey, where every discovery stokes the fires of desire. It's a dance of fingers and feelings, building a bond that's as intimate as it is exhilarating. Whether you're using it as a delicious appetiser before the main event or letting it be the star of the show, it's up to you. And if you fancy adding a bit of sparkle to the mix? Introducing a cheeky toy or two can send those sensations from fabulous to phenomenal.


Safety first, always: Before diving into the waves of pleasure, remember cleanliness is queen! Keeping those hands spick and span ensures you're not inviting any unwanted guests to the party.

LOVE Team Tip

Our savvy gals at LOVE AND VIBES advocate for regular check-ups for STDs – it's like giving your sexual health a spa day. A yearly visit is a must, but if you're mingling with new partners more frequently, consider popping by your clinic a tad more often. Stay safe, stay sensational!

The art of whispered kisses: diving into oral pleasures

  • Oral delights: There's an intimate allure to oral exploration, sweethearts. Whether it's the prelude to more or the mesmerising main event itself, this act is all about savouring the delicate nuances of your partner's body. Using your tongue to dance across the clitoris, vulva, or even the tantalising terrain of the anus can be an exquisite symphony of sensations.
  • Safety with a side of sensuality: Now, while we're all about riding the waves of passion, it's paramount to keep things safe and sexy. Enter the dental dam – your trusty shield in the world of oral escapades. It's a thin latex barrier that ensures the only exchange happening is one of pleasure, keeping those pesky STDs at bay. So, go on, let the games begin – safely and sensationally!

Venturing behind the velvet curtains: anal delights decoded

  • Anal adventures: While often uncharted territory, anal escapades between women can lead to a treasure trove of sensations. It's not just about the journey, but the tools you employ: think anal plugs, alluring dildos, and the power-packed strap-ons. For those seeking even more intimate explorations, rimming (using the tongue or fingers to stimulate the anus) offers an electrifying dance of sensations. And for the daring divas out there? Fisting can be an intense venture, just ensure you’re both on the same page.
  • Prep like a pro: Before you embark on this intimate odyssey, let’s chat hygiene. An enema bulb or anal douche can be your best ally, ensuring the stage is set for a smooth performance.
  • A quick word on risks: Unlike our lady bits down front, the rectum is a tad high maintenance – it doesn't come with its own natural lubrication. Don't dive in dry; you'll want to ensure things slide with ease to prevent those dreaded micro-tears. Choose your lubricant wisely: for those gorgeous silicone toys, water-based lubricants are the ticket. But if it's endurance you're after, silicone-based lubricants have got your back – just remember to keep them away from your silicone toys!

The inner sanctum: navigating vaginal pleasures

  • The array of intimate tools: Vaginal adventures can be both traditional and avant-garde. From the classic dildos to the assertive strap-ons, dual-action double dildos, or the tantalising tease of vibrating knickers – there's a world of pleasure at your fingertips. With a plethora of shapes, sizes, textures, and tantalising features, it's akin to being a kid in a candy store. Pick what tickles your fancy and dive into the depths of delight!
  • Safety in sensuality: Amidst all the fun and frolic, let's not forget the golden rules. Hygiene is paramount! Ensure both your hands and those fabulous toys are pristine before and after your escapades. And sharing might be caring, but when it comes to toys, slap on a condom if you're passing the pleasure to ensure you're only sharing the fun and not any sneaky STDs.

Sensual symmetry: the allure of scissoring

  • The dance of dual desires: Scissoring is the art of drawing closer, intimately intertwined. It’s about that delicious friction, as one set of genitals meets another, and the rhythmic dance of two clitorises flirting towards a crescendo of ecstasy. A dance as old as time, it’s a pathway to profound connection and orgasmic peaks.
  • Be careful: While tribadism has a lesser risk profile compared to some other acts, there’s still a need for vigilance. Those pesky infections – think herpes and genital warts – can still play spoiler. Stay in the know: regular tests are your friend. And remember, if something feels off (be it a pesky itch, a sudden redness or the appearance of bumps), it's time to check in with the experts. Keep the fun clean and keen, and stay safe, lovelies!