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Orgasming during penetration is no easy feat. While some people have no problems, many others are met with frustration even though they feel desire and arousal. There isn’t one simple trick for it to work, and it all starts with relaxation, connection and curiosity. By taking the time to explore new approaches and listen to your body, you can quickly turn penetration into an activity for sensual experimentation.
The LOVE Team are bringing you six top tips to help you rediscover penetration in a way that’s deeper, more intimate and more freeing.
1. Prepare Your Mind and Body
Before you even think about penetration, take some time to get into the right state of mind. Arousal, relaxation and desire are spurred on by the right gestures: a look, a touch, a sensual atmosphere, a slow, sensual breath…
Foreplay isn’t just a formality, it’s a type of warm up for both the mind and the body, synchronising one with the other.
If you’re looking to stimulate desire in ways that don’t involve penetration, why not take a look at our article all about how to make your partner come without penetration? This is also a great read if you’re simply looking to expand your sexual prowess.
2. Explore Your Internal Pleasure Zones
Internal pleasure isn’t all about the G spot. For some people, the walls before the vagina or the prostate react well to gentle, regular forms of stimulation. For others, the depth or the angle of penetration is what matters most.
It’s best to learn your body without rushing. Try out different positions, movements and levels of pressure, either alone or with a partner. You’ll be surprised to discover how simply adjusting one thing can change everything.
If you want more information on the subject, we have a guide detailing everything you need to know about
how to stimulate the G spot
.
If you’re curious about what prostate pleasure has to offer, our article ‘Prostate Orgasm: The Ultimate Guide for Understanding and Exploring Your P-Spot’ will help you when it comes to all things back entrance.
3. Combine Stimulation
It’s rare for people to orgasm from penetration alone. Providing multiple forms of stimulation will allow you an increased chance of a longer, stronger orgasm.
For women, the clitoris is the star player: consistent stimulation during penetration, either with a finger, a tongue or a vibrator, makes all the difference.
For men, the base of the penis, the perineum, or the
testicles
can be stimulated at the same time in order to amplify sensations.
A vibrating cock ring is perfect if you want to share pleasure, just like any other stimulator that can slide between yours and your partner’s bodies.
For more inspiration, check out ‘Five Exciting Ways to Use a Vibrator During Penetrative Sex’- a quick read that’s full of simple yet effective ideas.
4. Choose the Positions that Really Make You Feel Something
Each position arouses different sensations. Some favour depth, others proximity or external stimulation.
If you want a slow, gentle experience in which you can feel every single movement, try spooning. Cowgirl, however, will allow you to control the intensity and the angle. The classic missionary position can be quickly spiced up by slipping a cushion under the hips to modify the angle of penetration.
If you want to switch things up and try something new, our article ‘LOVE Positions : The Best Ways to Have Chair Sex’, will give you some more unconventional ideas to play around with angles and balance.
Find the position that you enjoy the most, not what you might consider as the ‘right position’. Pleasure is often felt strongest in the smallest details that only you can perceive.
5. Play Around With the Mix Between Rhythm, Pleasure and Tension
The most pleasurable penetrative experiences aren’t simply the most intense ones. Varying speeds, rhythms and taking little breaks can intensify pleasure.
Some people enjoy orgasm denial, meaning postponing climax in order to prolong the mounting pleasure. Others prefer simultaneous orgasms, a rare form of synchronisation where two bodies release built up tension at the same time.
Types of play like this, that focus on control and complicity, may completely transform the way you view penetration.
Don’t be afraid of a little silence or taking a break: sometimes simply a look or a slowed movement is enough to revive tensions.
6. Talk About How You Feel
Pleasure is a two way street. Talking about what you enjoy, what isn’t really your cup of tea, or what you might like to try out will help to build trust. It’s not a question of technique, but more so a question of mutual attentiveness.
Communicating in this way can also help you better understand how your partner operates. For example, it can help some men to better manage their arousal and delay ejaculation, whilst others work to understand phenomenons and clichés surrounding the male orgasm, or even ‘blue balls’.
For more information on these subjects, our articles ‘How to Ejaculate Faster’ and ‘Retrograde Ejaculation’ are great to find out more about the penis and its many mysteries.
Talking pleasure doesn’t need to be uncomfortable. In fact, it’s often the key to a more relaxed, sincere and sensual experience.
Having an orgasm during penetration has nothing to do with performance, but everything to do with feelings. Everyone experiences pleasure in their own way, and that is what makes it so unique and fun.
When you take the time to explore, breathe and share a moment of intimacy, penetration will become an experience steeped in physical, emotional and partner driven pleasure.
If you’re looking to prolong pleasure, then our article on multiple orgasms will give you the information you need to learn how to ride wave after wave of ecstasy.
