How to spice up the missionary position

Posted on 20 June 2024 by Natalia
How to spice up the missionary position
Discover how to transform the classic yet often underestimated missionary position into a scorching and super-satisfying experience! Check out the LOVE Team’s tips for spicing up this Kama Sutra classic. Get ready to awaken passion beneath the sheets!

Among the numerous sexual positions, the missionary is generally looked-down-on: it’s boring, only for couples who have sex on autopilot, not pleasurable for women... But why does this position have such a bad reputation, despite its popularity? Join us as we debunk these misconceptions and uncover how the missionary position can be anything but mundane. Let our team of LOVE experts unveil the secrets to turning this position into a sensual and fulfilling experience for both partners.

Why is the missionary position seen as boring?

When discussing a "typical" or "routine" sexual encounter, the missionary position immediately comes to mind. It's the one most seen in films, thought of as the most basic, the most mundane. One partner lies on their back, legs spread, while the other positions themselves on top. This image may even make you think of your awkward first sexual experience, far from sexy or satisfying. Often associated with an old, long-time couple having sex only once every weekend... Or worse, missionary is the epitome of "vanilla sex," of a sex life devoid of imagination. But is this really true?

Despite being thought of as routine, missionary remains one of the most popular of all sexual positions. Its simplicity offers you a sense of comfort and closeness, perfect for intimate moments with a partner. However, this kind of familiarity can sometimes be felt as a lack of excitement or passion. But think again – the missionary position can be totally hot when you do it the right way!

Our top 5 tips for getting the most out of the missionary position

With a little bit of imagination, you can turn your missionary sessions into unforgettable pleasure sessions with your partner! Here are a few of the LOVE Team’s favourite tips for enjoying missionary:

1. Change the angle of penetration

To make the missionary position feel brand new, simply modify the angle by positioning a pillow under the receiving partner's hips. This simple adjustment allows for deeper penetration, enhancing sensations for both partners. By elevating the hips, you can also change the trajectory of penetration for a different kind of stimulation. Plus, the receiving partner can experiment with other positions by wrapping their legs around their partner's back or resting them against their partner's shoulders/chest. These adjustments allow for varied angles and sensations, making the missionary position feel different every time.

2. Use a sex toy to stimulate other erogenous zones

Using a sex toy can make the missionary position feel fresher by stimulating other erogenous zones during penetration. For example, using a clit stimulator or  bullet vibrator on a woman’s clit during penetration will double her pleasure instantly. In the same way, you can use nipple clamps or nipple suckers to stimulate her breasts during missionary if she has sensitive boobs. To stimulate both partners’ external bits with incredible oscillations, you can also wear a vibrating cock ring during penetration.

3. Don't forget to focus on your partner

The missionary position offers a unique kind of intimacy that can be increased by fully focusing on your partner. So instead of closing your eyes and fantasising elsewhere, take the opportunity to gaze into each other's eyes, exchange passionate kisses, and express your emotions to each other. Eye contact and physical closeness will strengthen the emotional connection you share. Take the time to enjoy your partner's reactions and let yourself be carried away by pleasure.

4. Experiment with dirty talk

dirty talk

The missionary position is the perfect opportunity to explore dirty talk, even if you’ve never tried it before. The intimacy and closeness created by this position will make your explicit verbal exchanges even hotter, because you’ll feel like the only two people in the world. Dare to express your deepest desires and share your fantasies with your partner. Whispered words in the ear can also be incredibly exciting.

5. Explore the world of BDSM

For couples who want to explore bolder sensations, the missionary position can be the perfect playground for adding touches of BDSM play to your lovemaking. Using restraints like ropes or handcuffs will establish an element of control and submission to the experience. By tying your partner’s arms and legs to the bed frame, you can increase their feelings of restriction and vulnerability. Plus, using erotic accessories such as floggers, feather ticklers, or blindfolds can make your session surprising and sensual. Obviously, it goes without saying that any BDSM play must be 100% consensual, so don’t forget to discuss your idea with your partner beforehand and establish a safeword.

Ultimately, what truly makes sex exciting and fulfilling is not the position itself, but rather the partner with whom we share the experience. Whether it's the missionary position, reverse cowgirl, or any other position in the Kama Sutra, the essential element remains the connection we share with our partner. With the right partner and a dash of imagination, any position can become an incredibly exciting experience.

By exploring and having fun with all the possibilities out there, you can most definitely enrich your sex life. So, whether it's experimenting with new positions or revisiting the classics, the most important thing is to have fun and create new moments of pleasure and connection with your partner. Unleash your imagination and enjoy!