Fetish Play and Role Play

​Fetishism is described as being sexually aroused by an object, body part, fabric or situation in particular. In the realm of BDSM, this can include things like foot fetishes, latex and leather fetishes, as well as a number of more specific practices.

​Preferences and fantasies are unique to everyone. Some fetishes focus on a certain accessory or material, whereas others are built around specific scenarios, sensations or dynamics.

BDSM role play is all about stepping into a certain character or duty in order to live out a fantasy or make a scenario more immersive. Partners take on specific roles as a way of bringing to life a shared erotic fantasy.

​BDSM role play often includes things such as:

• Dom/sub scenarios 
• Wearing specific outfits for added immersion
• Using masks to hide one’s identity
• BDSM hoods, harnesses or other costume accessories 
• Imaginary worlds, sometimes inspired by particular fantasies

​The goal is to make the experience more intense, immersive and adapted to the needs of everyone involved.

​The possibilities are endless! What you choose to explore depends on both you and your partner’s interests, fantasies and desires. Some people already have an idea of a fetish or scenario that has intrigued them for a while, whereas others take their time exploring all the different options open to them.

​Here are a few examples of popular BDSM role play ideas:

• Master/slave: one of the most well-known scenarios, it’s based on a dynamic of domination, obedience and control.
• Medical play : one partner takes on the role of doctor or nurse, whilst the other pretends to be the patient. Depending on how you and your partner feel, these sessions can include faux medical exams, medical-style BDSM accessories, and authoritative roles.
• Puppy play : one partner takes on the role of puppy, whilst the other becomes their owner. This type of game focuses on obedience, discipline and bond-building.
• Military/police: these scenarios are often based on authority, discipline, taking orders and respecting a hierarchy.
• Service play: the submissive partner becomes a butler, servant or assistant whose job it is to execute tasks and take orders.
• Burglar: this scenario focuses on pretending to surprise, capture or interrogate a partner (when consented to).
• Escort and client: partners take on these roles to play around with seduction and negotiation.
• Forniphilia: one of the partners uses their body to become an object or a piece of human furniture to perform consensual objectification​
  

​To further reinforce immersion during play, you can use costumes, masks, harnesses and even decorative pieces to make your surroundings more realistic.

​A successful BDSM scene requires enthusiastic consent from all partners involved. The more at ease and involved everyone is with the situation, the more immersive, pleasant and exciting it will be.

​Communication plays an essential role, including before play begins. Talk through your fantasies, desires, the roles you want to take on, as well as your limits; this will reduce the risk of a misunderstanding and help you to create a scene that everyone involved feels good about.​

​A few things to keep in mind:

• Talk openly about the fantasies you have and the practices you want to explore
• Each participant should define their physical, emotional and sexual limits in advance
• Choose a safeword that allows for play to be stopped immediately if needed
• Use high-quality, specially designed BDSM accessories only
• Check that your toys are in good condition before using them
• Keep an eye on your partner’s reactions and comfort level throughout the whole session

​We also recommend that you avoid consuming alcohol or other substances that can alter your judgement before play. Even though you may feel like they help with managing stress and bringing you out of your shell, they make communication and decision-making much more difficult.

​After your BDSM scene, take some time for aftercare. A little moment to discuss what happened, comfort each other, talk about what you enjoyed is perfect in building trust and improving future BDSM role play sessions.