How to Choose the Perfect Sex Toy for Vaginas

We’ve created this guide with all vaginas in mind, so whether you’re cis, trans or non-binary, you’re welcome here. We’re simply talking about pleasure without fixed norms or prejudices, with an approach that respects each person's body and experiences.

Our goal is clear: to help you to choose the best sex toy for vaginal stimulation. The term ‘vagina’ refers both to the internal canal, often explored through penetration, and to the external areas surrounding it, which play a key role in sexual sensations. This guide deliberately focuses on this form of stimulation. If you’re searching for advice on clitoral stimulation, you’ll find a dedicated guide on our site.

Not everyone who has a vagina can orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone, and this is completely normal. That being said, learning to understand your body, exploring different rhythms and testing out toys can open the doors to pleasure. For those having experienced vaginal orgasms, it’s described as longer and more intense than a clit orgasm alone. That’s our little way of saying: why not give it a go?

This guide is for anyone, from beginners in the sex toy world, all the way to seasoned pros. The common thread among everyone here is the desire for deliberate, conscious, and pleasurable vaginal stimulation. So without further ado, let's get started.

There are a few things to take into account when choosing a sex toy for vaginas. The right choice will depend on your body, your lived experiences and your own personal preferences.

This is often the first point you need to consider, especially if you’re looking for a penetrative toy. If you’re just starting out out in the sex toy world or if it’s a sensitive area for you, then you may find it more comfortable to start by using a rather slender sex toy with a gentle, gradual shape. Over time, some people might want to increase width to explore new sensations, whereas others may be happy to stick with those narrower options. There are no rules, just do what works best for you.

It’s also important to consider your budget. The good news? Nowadays, you’ll find options for all budgets. From your simple, classic dildo all the way to the latest rabbit with different features and functions, you won’t be struggling for choice. If you are eager to explore pleasure and keep an eye on your spending, our guide to Affordable Sex Toys is a great place to start.

Next, let's talk about design, specifically how your toy looks. We tend to associate vaginal penetration with penises, but this doesn’t have to be the case. For many people with vaginas, an ultra-realistic toy with a tip, testicles and even veins can be super arousing. However, if a phallic looking object isn’t your thing, non-realistic sex toys, with sleek designs or vibrant colours, allow for equally pleasurable penetration without making you think about penises.

The material your toy is made from is essential if you want to ensure comfort and tip-top hygiene. We highly recommend opting for non-porous materials that are easy to clean and can be sterilised , especially if you think you may use your toy with another person. Medical grade silicone, metal and glass are all excellent options, as they’re safe, durable and feel pleasant to the touch.

Take the time to reflect upon these criteria, and this will help you to choose the perfect sex toy for vaginas, so you can explore your pleasure without any worries.

So, are you ready to keep going? Great! Now that you know the basics, let’s find out what options are out there. Let's take a look at the different types of sex toys designed for vaginal stimulation, each with their own specific features, sensations and cheeky add-ons. It's up to you to decide which ones best suit your desires.

Realistic dildos are toys that accurately resemble a penis. Some of the main features include veins, tip, sometimes testicles, and for the most realistic versions, you may even find pubic hair. The aim is to provide people with a visual and tactile experience that is close to the real thing for those who rely on imagination to increase arousal.

It’s no coincidence that the realistic dildo remains a fan favourite. Versatile, satisfying for many people with vaginas, and available in an infinite number of variations, it continues to be an essential for vaginal pleasure.

As mentioned earlier, not everyone is interested in being penetrated by a penis (or something that closely resembles one). Luckily, there are many alternatives for you to enjoy vaginal play without the penis aesthetic.

Metal dildos are another well-loved option. As with glass, metal is non-porous and can be sterilised, making it the ideal choice for hygiene, especially if you use your toy with others. They’re naturally cool in temperature, and can even be warmed under the tap to add an extra sensory dimension to penetration.

As we all know, orgasming through vaginal stimulation alone is not an easy feat. This is undoubtedly where the rabbit vibrator reveals its potential.

For the sensation seekers amongst you, there are even triple stimulation rabbit vibrators. As well as the vagina and the clitoris, a third element stimulates the anus, for an even more complete and deeply stimulating experience.

Ben Wa balls are unique little toys because not only are they pleasant to use, they also do a lot of good for your pelvic floor. The pelvic floor is the set of muscles that support and strengthen the vagina, and it plays an essential role in sexual health and feelings of pleasure.

Ben Wa balls are particularly recommended after a vaginal birth . The pelvic floor may tend to relax, and these toys offer a real boost to regain good sensations and regain confidence in your body, always at your own pace and without pressure.

As sex toy experts, we often ask ourselves: “What is the perfect toy is for couples looking to explore pleasure together?” And if there’s one fun, must-have option, then it’s definitely the love egg.

The vibrating egg is not limited to internal use. It can also be used to stimulate the external parts of the vagina, thanks to powerful and targeted vibrations. Versatile, discreet and incredibly exciting, it is an excellent choice for those who want to share the pleasure of a sex toy, whether as a couple or in group play, always with respect and consent.

In conclusion, there is no such thing as the best sex toy for vaginas, but rather toys that are suited to very different bodies, sensitivities and desires. Whether realistic or non-realistic dildos, rabbit vibrators, Ben Wa balls or vibrating eggs, each type of sex toy offers a unique way to explore vaginal stimulation, no matter if you’re just discovering it or already very comfortable with your pleasure. The key is to choose a toy that suits you, respects your pace and makes you want to experiment with confidence.

And if you still have doubts, questions or simply need personalised advice, don't hesitate to contact the LOVE Team. We are here to listen to you, guide you and help you find the sex toy that will really make a difference to your pleasure.