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How To Choose Your First Sex Toy for Women
Posted on 25/08/2023 and updated on 03/06/2025 by Emma
Already revelled in the delights of intimacy and keen to add a bit of spice? The LOVE Team is here with this guide to help you pinpoint the perfect sex toy that promises to transport you to uncharted realms of pleasure.
Picking out your first toy shouldn’t be a shot in the dark – it’s about understanding what you truly desire and setting some clear expectations. Not only will the LOVE Team help you get your head around (and hands on!) the idea of embracing a sex toy, we’ll also dish the lowdown on toys tailored for solo missions versus those designed for duo discoveries. Dive in and let’s find your ideal match, shall we?
Our favourite sex toys for women
How to navigate the world of sex toys with confidence
We’ve all been there, love! It's utterly normal to have a butterfly or two at first. Take your time, and saunter over to our 'Sex toys for Women' section at your own pace. Each little gadget promises its own kind of magic. Fancy vibrations, tantalising pulses, or maybe a mix of inner and outer caresses? Trust your instincts, darling, and let your body guide you to what tickles your fancy the most.
And for those who've yet to take the plunge into the world of intimacy? It might feel like you're facing Everest. If you're nodding along, our specially crafted guide, " How to choose your first sex toy: a buyer’s guide for female virgins ", is just the ticket. Tailored with utmost care and expertise, it's your compass to kick-start your first intimate odyssey.
Do I need different toys for solo and couple's play?
What type of toy should I choose?
A gentle vibrator to start
If you're dipping your toes into this world, longing for a gentle and delightful initiation, a subtle vibrator could be your go-to companion. Designed with mellow vibrations and a silky-smooth texture, it invites you to leisurely discover every inch of your body at a pace that feels right for you.
While often pegged as a toy for clitoral pleasure, there's so much more to its talents. Picture a gentle hum tracing the curve of your nipples, gliding down your neck, or teasing other tantalising spots. With this little device, every nook and cranny of your body becomes an exhilarating playground.
A “neutral” dildo
A contact-free clit stimulator
Vibrating knickers
Vibrating knickers are the perfect balance between pleasure, arousal, and fun. They’re made up of a soft, comfortable pair of knickers and equipped with a bullet vibrator (that can often be controlled from a distance). This discreet little option is perfect for women looking to explore new sensations in their day-to-day life, or to spice up evenings with their lover.
When used alone, you’ll be able to see how it feels playing around with subtle, constant vibrations, without using your fingers or a classic sex toy. When used with a partner, you better buckle up for an incredible ride… Let them take the reins, using the remote control to guide your pleasure during a date such as going for dinner, taking a romantic stroll, or even at the cinema. This is an incredibly sensual way to turn a simple date into a moment of unforgettable eroticism.
If you’re just getting started, opt for a rechargeable pair of vibrating knickers made out of silicone or a soft fabric, that has different levels of vibrations so you can switch things up depending on how you feel.
Ben Wa balls
Ben Wa balls are often seen as more of an intimate accessory than a sex toy, but we think that they deserve their place in your journey of sensual discovery. Designed to strengthen the perineum, all whilst providing subtle internal sensations, they can help you to better understand your body and develop deeper, more intense orgasms.
They’re easy to insert and can be worn for a few minutes a day, during quiet activities or whilst moving around. Aside from the muscular benefits they provide, Ben Wa balls are a perfect addition to your erotic games: some women like to wear them just before or during foreplay to help intensify sensations.
It’s best to choose some Ben Wa balls made of soft silicone — lightweight if you’re a beginner — then gradually increase the weight and wear time to help strengthen your pelvic muscles all whilst cultivating heightened internal pleasure.
A suitable lube
To truly amplify every tingle and tremor, a quality lubricant often stands as your trusty sidekick. Whether your toy is designed for internal or external delight, the right lube can elevate your adventure – making every touch softer, every glide smoother, and every sensation heightened.
Our hot tip? Go for a water-based lubricant. Not only is it compatible with the lion's share of sex toys, but it also cleans up in a jiffy and leaves behind no sticky aftermath.
