Our tips for achieving an easy orgasm

Posted on 21 December 2021 by Natalia
Our tips for achieving an easy orgasm

For both men and women, it can sometimes be difficult to achieve an orgasm. To celebrate World Orgasm Day, we've put together a list of tips and tricks to make it easier to reach orgasm. Of course, having an orgasm is not necessarily the most important part of being in an intimate relationship, but since it is World Orgasm Day, you might as well treat yourself right! 

1 – Relax and let go

While you’ve probably already heard that it’s important to relax before having sex, there's a reason that it bears repeating: it works! You can't have an orgasm if you're stressed out. Yes, it's really that simple. So before you go to bed, relax, take a bath, maybe have a glass of wine or a cup of herbal tea. Sometimes, it just takes a few minutes to let the stress of the day melt away. 

Once the action has begun, just let go! Your partner wants you to have fun, just like you want them to have fun. You don't pay attention to their little imperfections, do you? So forget about any little bumps, bulges, cellulite or any of the other hang-ups that are preventing you from enjoying yourself.

2 - Communicate

We could give you a thousand tips on how to achieve an outstanding orgasm, but the most important thing is communication! It is essential to talk about your sexual preferences with your partner. Tell them what you like and what you want. Be 100% honest. Speaking frankly with your partner will allow you to get exactly what you want. If talking about it isn't enough to make your partner understand what you need, then show them! On top of it being an even more effective method of communicating your needs, showing your partner what you like will really turn both of you on! But for that to happen, you need to get to know yourself…

3 – Indulge in some solo play

In order to know what makes you feel good during partner play, you first need to know what you like during solo play. The only way to get to know your body intimately is to masturbate. Indulging in a self-pleasure session has two advantages: 1) You’ll learn exactly what makes you come, and 2) You can then show your partner what you like so that they can turn you on in just the right way during sex. It’s a win-win situation!

4 – Listen to some audio porn

We’ve all seen a porn video or two, with the same set-ups and awful acting. While most porn clips may be kitschy, they can be a good way to increase your excitement during partner play. After all, the more excited you are during sex, the easier it will be to achieve orgasm. But have you ever tried listening to some audio porn, a more ethical alternative to the usual erotic fare you may find online? There are hundreds of audio porn options out there, from soft and innocent to more hardcore. Let your imagination do the rest! 

5 – Play with some new toys 

Sex toys are an increasingly popular way to spice up your sex life with your partner, making it easier than ever before to reach climax during sex. Sex toys for couples, designed with both partners’ pleasure in mind, is one of LOVE AND VIBES’ top-selling categories. For example, our Fire app-controlled vibrating egg is perfect for couples who want to experiment with partner play out in public. It will be your little secret!

6 – Experiment with new stimulating positions and rhythms

There are an endless number of positions that will get both partners off for sure! The key here is to choose a position that both of you will love. More than 60% of women need some clit stimulation to reach orgasm, while men tend to prefer penetration. We recommend starting with the Amazon position, which is bound to satisfy both partners’ needs. It is also important to keep a steady rhythm – try not to go too fast!  

7 – Try a stimulant

Finally, if all these tips and tricks haven’t worked, then it may be time to try a clit or penis stimulant. These products are designed to increase your pleasure to help you achieve orgasm, whether you’re a man or a woman. At LOVE AND VIBES, we carry several different stimulating products. Women may try our Lady Orgasm clit-stimulating gel to awaken their most sensitive area and men will love our erection cream and Bois Bandé stimulant to boost their libido (and erection) in no time.

It’s World Orgasm Day, so don’t forget to give and to receive as many orgasms as possible ;)