People tend to talk about the female orgasm in a mysterious and mystical way because it is more difficult for women to achieve orgasm. Society leads us to believe that reaching climax during sex is a given for men. Just a few minutes of thrusting and voilà, a guy will come as if by magic. But it's not always as simple as that. Here are 5 totally inaccurate clichés about the male orgasm and his pleasure!
1 - Men can't fake it
It's well known that women sometimes fake it during sex. But did you know that men can fake it too? According to a study by Zava Healthcare, 27% British men have already faked it during sex, compared to 68% of women. Which goes to show that sometimes it's not just the ladies who just want to get it over with!
2 – Ejaculation = orgasm
For this next point, we’ll need to define a few terms: ejaculation, orgasm and enjoyment. For men, ejaculation simply means the secretion and expulsion of semen. Orgasm, on the other hand, refers to the physiological reaction to the expulsion, i.e. the contraction of the perineal muscles. Finally, enjoyment refers to the feeling of euphoria and happiness a man experiences during an orgasm. All of this to say that sometimes a man may ejaculate, but that doesn’t mean that he has come.
3 – Men can only come in one way
We all know that genital stimulation will make a man come, but did you know that this is not the only way? Men have a prostate gland that, when stimulated, will give them a completely different kind of pleasure than what they may be used to. If you're interested in prostate orgasms, we suggest that you read our article on prostate pleasure to learn more. You can also visit our category featuring sex toys designed for prostate massage.
4 – All men love blow jobs
While many men love the feeling of well-performed fellatio, many feel that a BJ is not required item on the menu. In fact, according to a French study by Ipsos, 1 in 5 French men could do without oral sex. Whether your man likes oral sex or not, there are plenty of other ways to please him. For example, have a browse in our male sex toys category to pick up the perfect plaything for him.
5 - Men only think about coming
Contrary to what popular culture would have you believe, men are not selfish jerks who only think about their own pleasure. In reality, men, like women, take great pleasure in satisfying their partner sexually. Many men feel that the main purpose of the sexual relationship is not necessarily to come. That said, let’s admit it – when both partners come, everyone is a little bit happier.
In conclusion, don’t believe everything that you hear about male sexuality! Many of the myths out there are false, as every man is unique when it comes to what gets him off.