The ultimate guide to phone sex

In this article, the LOVE Team will give you all of our best tips and tricks to maintaining an intense intimate connection while living apart. If you’ve never tried out phone sex before, you may find the prospect scary at first. Rest assured that phone sex can be incredibly exhilarating when you know how to do it the right way!

Even with the distance, you can find ways to get together and share some intimate moments. Technology will be your best friend here, allowing you to connect with each other as if it were the first day. You'll need to communicate with your partner and ensure that they feel comfortable talking dirty over the phone.

Choose a place where you won't be disturbed, away from prying ears. If you live alone, stay at home, in your bedroom or living room, for example, in a comfortable, safe environment.

Remember to protect your privacy by closing your curtains and/or shutters.

With a few simple accessories, you can turn your interior into a veritable love nest... from a distance!

• Soft lighting: With warm lighting and a few colored bulbs, you'll find yourself immersed in a sensual and soothing atmosphere, perfect for expressing all your fantasies.
• Candles: Besides their enchanting glow, candles will create a sensual environment.
• Romantic music: Create a special playlist with your favorite tunes, which will get you into an amorous mood in no time.

SMS, audio call, video call...whatever works! The important thing is to choose the best means of communication for you and your partner.

Nothing is more annoying than an erotic exchange interrupted due to an unstable internet connection. Make sure beforehand that your exchange won't be disrupted and that your phone or computer has a strong enough connection for a video call. You should also disable notifications to avoid unnecessary distractions.

Sending an erotic message to your partner will immediately excite them! Share a fantasy, dare to ask for something unusual, or a little daring. Ask about their fantasies. This will set an exciting atmosphere, encouraging them to continue the sexy exchange. Revealing your most intimate desires will strengthen the trust you have in each other.

Long-distance intimacy requires a bit of boldness and a lot of imagination. That way, you'll keep your partner interested and stimulate their senses from afar.

• Tell erotic stories: Invent some sensual scenarios, describe fantasies you've never dared to reveal, or relive shared memories. You can also ask yoru partner to descirbe their own desires.You might be surprised... and will definitely be very excited!
• Play erotic games: To add more spice to your phone sex session, invent some sexual challenges (with rewards or punishments), ask each other increasingly intimate questions, or engage in role-playing.
• Alternate methods of communication: Start with sending sexts, then move on to a phone call, and work your way to a video call!

• Make your pleasure heard: Let your partner know how much you’re enjoying yourself by describing the sensations you feel – they’ll be even more excited.
• Moan and make sensual sounds: Don't hold back. Your moans will show your partner how turned on you are.
• Discuss your desires and boundaries: above all, talk about all the topics that are important to you with your partner. What do you want? What are your concerns? What do you want to try? Open communication will strengthen your bond and build mutual trust.
• Encourage your partner: Show interest in them! Ask questions, encourage them. If you're available and caring, their inhibitions will easily fade away, and they'll be grateful for your attention.

• Choose a toy that suits you both: There’s an app-controlled sex toy out there for everyone! Check our App-controlled toys section to find the one that suits you best. Some toys can be controlled remotely through an app, allowing your partner to take charge and surprise you when you least expect it.
• Express your preferences: It's important to discuss your limits with your partner beforehand. Make sure you both agree on the details of the experience you're about to have; it will strengthen your mutual trust.
• Familiarise yourself with how your sex toy works: Before using your toy for the first use, carefully read the instructions and ensure you understand how it works. That way, you'll fully enjoy all its features to the fullest.
• Take care of your sex toy: Clean your app-controlled sex toy thoroughly after each use. Then, store it away from dust (and prying eyes).