How to use a dildo

Whether you're a beginner or an expert, our tips and tricks will help you enjoy your dildo during solo or partner play. So, are you ready to explore new kinds of pleasure? Let's get started!

The first thing to remember is to relax! Find the perfect place for your session to create a calming atmosphere. Make sure you lock the door to avoid unwanted interruptions. A quiet place should also help you concentrate on your session.

To enhance your experience, play some of your favourite music in the background, light scented candles or use essential oils. Finally, a soft bed or sofa will be the most comfortable place to enjoy your dildo for the first time.

Remember that playing with a dildo is a personal experience: there is no right or wrong way to do it. The aim is to relax and take things slowly. If you feel anxious, take a break and calm down.

Using a dildo is also a way of discovering what you like best in bed. Don't expect immediate results. Just take it easy and don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

Make sure that your body is ready for your first session. Playing with your dildo will be more pleasurable and comfortable.

If you’re using your dildo for vaginal penetration, stimulate your clitoris to increase arousal and natural lubrication. Using a clit stimulator or just your fingers will help you relax.

If you’re using your dildo for anal penetration, start by inserting a few fingers into your anus to get used to the sensations of penetration, or use a small anal plug.

You should also choose the right lube for the type of sex you’re having. For anal penetration, use a thicker anal lube, which will have a better glide and last longer. Some anal lubes even have relaxing properties that will make the experience more comfortable.

Whether you're a beginner or an experienced dildo user, there are many techniques and types of penetration to explore. Choose a technique that suits your mood and experience level. Here are some ideas!

When using a dildo for the first time, experiment with a shallow kind of penetration. Before moving on to full penetration, first get used to the new sensations by exploring your external erogenous zones, like your clitoris or perineum (the area between your genitalia and anus).. For example, you can lie on your back and bend your knees at chest level to make shallow vaginal penetration easier. Use slow movements and adapt a rhythm that suits you.

Once you are more comfortable with the dildo, you can experiment with more intense forms of stimulation. Perform faster thrusting movements for deeper sensations (remember to use enough lubricant to ensure your comfort!). You can also gradually change the angle of penetration to discover new erogenous zones.

Stimulating a woman’s G-spot (about an inch from the entrance of the vagina) or a man’s P-spot (prostate, in front of the rectum and under the bladder) with a dildo can result in an explosive orgasm. Choose a firmer dildo with a curved shaft to perfectly target the zone. Remember that the shape and size of these two points can vary from person to person: take all the time you need to explore your body and be gentle with yourself.

Double penetration is the simultaneous penetration of a woman’s vagina and anus. You can perform double penetration during solo play or while having fun with your partner. Double penetration delivers incredibly intense orgasms. Here are some tips for getting started with double penetration:

• Use a double-ended dildo: Bend your double dong into a U-shape to stimulate both of your orifices at the same time.
• Use two different dildos: Use two dildos of different sizes and designs for more fun.
• Use a dildo in your vagina and an anal plug in your anus: This is a great alternative to using two dildos for DP beginners.
• Use a dildo during sex with your partner: While your partner is penetrating one of your orifices, use your dildo in your other orifice.

Using a glass dildo will allow you to experiment with temperature play. Simply dip your glass dildo into hot or cold water. This will warm the dildo up or cool it down. A warmer dildo is wonderfully relaxing, while a cooler dildo will invigorate you.

When using hot water, remember to check the temperature of the water and that of the dildo to avoid burning yourself.

If your dildo has a suction cup, you can stick it onto any smooth, flat surface (floor, mirror, table, etc.) and experiment with hands-free penetration. This will allow you to easily change the position and angle of penetration. Use your hands to stimulate other erogenous zones (e.g. clitoris or penis) or other sex toys while riding your dildo. Don't forget to check that your dildo is firmly stuck onto the surface before using it to prevent any accidents.

Using a dildo will allow you to share new experiences with your partner: why not try role-playing and experimenting with a bit of Dom/sub play?

Discuss your partner's limits and desires before trying anything new. Respect each other's boundaries and agree what kind of scenarios you’d like to try out.

Take care of your dildo by cleaning it after each use. This will ensure that it will last for many years to come. Here are some essential steps to follow:

We hope this guide has been helpful and has given you a better understanding of how to use your dildo. Remember, the most important thing is to enjoy yourself and have fun exploring your body and your fantasies. If you have any questions or concerns, feel free to contact the LOVE Team.

If you still haven’t found the perfect dildo, read our How to choose a dildo buyer’s guide. You’ll find a wealth of practical advice on how to find the dildo of your dreams.

We hope that you’ll enjoy intense and unforgettable moments of pleasure with your dildo and hope to see you soon on the LOVE AND VIBES website!