The Dick Slap: Trashy Sexual Practice or Consensual Erotic Game?

So what exactly is a dick slap? Is it designed to humiliate? A A porn craze? A fun game between two consenting partners? Spoiler: it all depends on your relationship, the context it’s performed in, and of course, consent.

In this article, we’ll be looking into the phenomenon of dick slapping, why some people enjoy it, how to bring it up to a partner and possible alternatives if you want a similar feeling without the actual slapping.

The term dick slap is pretty explanatory: a manoeuvre in which someone uses their — usually erect/semi-erect — penis to slap/smack their partner in the face. Intensity levels vary, ranging from light and playful all the way to something a little more harsh. This can explain why the dick slap may be so divisive.

The term itself became popular on the internet and in certain pornographic content, the latter being the reason some see it as a provocative, even degrading practice. In reality, how someone experiences a dick slap depends entirely on context: for some couples, it’s a fun consensual twist to their usual intimate routine, for others it’s a categorical no-go.

What we know for sure is that the dick slap isn’t a mere gesture, it also invokes a dynamic (provocation, domination , consensual humiliation or simply irony), and it’s precisely this dynamic that can totally change the experience.

Whilst capable of causing surprise or discomfort, it’s also considered an exciting game by some couples. There is no single reason that explains its appeal: it depends mainly on personality, the dynamics of the couple, and their relationship with provocation.

Some people enjoy the potential humoristic side to dick slapping as it breaks the sometimes ‘too serious’ atmosphere of sex by playing around with humour. Performance takes a back seat as the moment becomes more relaxed and spontaneous. In these cases, it almost acts as a trigger: people become more daring, surprise themselves, laugh… and sometimes this can make the experience even sexier.

For others, the attraction is psychological. Dick slaps can be likened to a game of domination, sometimes very light-hearted, sometimes more deliberate. They can evoke a form of power, provocation and even transgression. And if there is complete complicity, this can become a way of breaking away from the usual codes and establishing a different dynamic.

Let’s not beat around the bush: dick slaps may be seen as a form of humiliation. However, when it comes to sexuality, humiliation isn’t always a bad thing. What may be humiliating and unpleasant for one person may be a turn on for another… provided that it’s consensual, freely chosen and well-structured.

If there’s one thing to keep in mind, it’s that the dick slap should never be done on a whim, as its provocative effect may not be well received by your partner. Even in the most stable relationships, some people may still see it as a lack of respect or as an unwanted, humiliating gesture.

Technique is key in this situation. It is not a practice that should be imposed, nor is it something to be brought up ‘just like that’ without context. It works best when the atmosphere is already very trusting and the other person is explicitly in the same frame of mind.

It’s best to start slowly, as this will give you time to figure out whether dick slapping is something you and your partner enjoy. All in all, the act itself isn’t what matters, but more so what it brings out within your couple: does your partner find it sexy, funny or does it immediately put the brakes on intimacy?

What’s more, although it may seem evident, hygiene and comfort play an important role. The more intimate a practice is, the more the other person needs to feel comfortable. The goal is not to make the other person uncomfortable, but to establish a dynamic that excites both of you.

If the dick slap itself piques your interest, but the humiliation aspect is putting you off, then no fear as there are loads of different alternatives that still play around with provocation, power play and the general atmosphere of ‘it’s naughty and funny at the same time’.

Some couples love:

• Games where one person takes control and the other follows
• Sexual challenges
• Teasing and provocation

These options are often much more simple gateways into this type of play

If the psychological aspect of play is what garners your attention, there are more gentle ways of achieving the desired effect:

• Phrases
• Role play
• More relaxed versions of dom/sub scenarios

All of these options can be explored so that you get the same feeling without having to do something that makes someone uncomfortable.

Dick slaps are one of those practices that are often considered trashy, whereas in reality, everything depends on your relationship and the context in which it’s performed. For some, dick slapping is an absolute no, and that’s perfectly fine. For others, it can be a provocative, sexy, even funny game that makes up part of their overall sexuality.

In any case, the golden rule remains the same: consent is key. This is what transforms something potentially uncomfortable into sexy and exciting.