Making Condoms Sexy: How It’s Done

We often have a tendency to see condoms as a necessary evil: useful, but not very sexy. Nevertheless, all you need to transform your perception of condoms is a little creativity and complicity. By playing around with movements, textures, and settings, the condom will become the spark that lights the fire in the bedroom.

Let’s be honest for a second, not many people jump for joy at the thought of getting a condom out mid-romp. For this, we have outdated clichés to blame — “it spoils the fun”, “it’s a mood killer”, “I can’t feel anything with it on”. In reality, all of these common misconceptions are rooted in myth more than they are truth.

Generally, the problem doesn’t stem from the condom itself, but more so the way it’s integrated into play. If you treat the act of putting a condom on like a logistical move, then it’ll for sure ruin the fun. On the other hand, if you take the time to work the move into the sensual process, it’ll quickly become a symbol of complicity and attention.

Let’s be frank, there’s nothing sexier than a partner that thinks of your pleasure and your safety.

The secret to making condoms sexy, is not treating it like a chore. Instead, try turning it into an erotic game. Take your time with it instead of trying to blindly shove it on as fast as possible. Give it a well-deserved spot in your foreplay routine.

Here are a few ways you can do that:

• Let your partner take control: watch them slowly unroll the condom whilst maintaining eye contact or interrupting the show with kisses.
• Use your mouth: some condoms are designed to be applied using the mouth . This is a fun, super sexy option, but make sure to be careful when doing this one.
• Set the scene: dim the lights, put some sexy music on, breathe into your partner's ear… it’s all about sensations.
• Invite your partner into the fun: say something like “do you want me to put it on?” or “it’s your turn” in a playful tone. This way the condom is part of the game, not an unwanted intruder.

For the more imaginative amongst us, why not incorporate it into role play? The meticulous doctor showing you how it’s done… latex is a great accessory for your fantasies.

Nowadays, condoms are almost nothing like what they used to be, even as little as a decade ago. Texture, scent, material, add-ons, there’s something for everyone to enjoy.

• Ultra-thin feel: perfect if you want a second skin effect.
• Ribbed and dotted: provide great G-spot or even clitoral stimulation, depending on the position.
• Flavoured and scented : this is a great option if you’re practicing oral sex.
• Heated or climax delay: to help prolong sensations and intensify pleasure.

If you’re more of the adventurous type, why not opt for glow in the dark condoms (yes, they really do exist!), or even cooling condoms, that will both add an element of surprise to your sexy time.

Never forget lube! It really does amplify sensations. Make sure to choose a water-based lube that's compatible with latex, or a heating lube for added intensity. You can even apply a dab of lube onto the inside of the condom for a more realistic feel.

For all the toy lovers out there, did you know that there are loads of toys (clit stimulators, vibrators, masturbators) on the LOVE AND VIBES website that can be used with a condom? This helps to prolong your toy’s lifespan and make it easier to clean afterwards.

Using a condom is so much more than a preventative method, it’s a way of telling your partner “I’m taking care of you, of us”. This mutual trust, this attention to each other, changes everything in the dynamics of pleasure.

When a person is feeling safe, their body relaxes, it’s easier to show desire, and every sensation is multiplied. Condoms thus become a symbol of intimacy and respect, not just a cliché for one-night stands.

That’s also what eroticism is, knowing how to stay safe without dampening the fun.

Condoms don’t deserve their reputation as a party pooper. With a little imagination, it can become an accessory to your pleasure, a catalyst for intimacy, and a way to explore new facets to your intimate life.

So let’s banish clichés from the bedroom, play around with everything condoms have to offer in terms of taste, texture and added effects, in order to turn your romps into unforgettable instants of ecstasy.

Because when you think about it, condoms are pretty sexy. It’s all about how you use them.