Endurance in the Bedroom: How Easy is it to Go Multiple Rounds?

The ability to ‘go multiple rounds’ depends on a number of things, such as age, health, arousal levels, or even the relationship you have with your partner. Let’s have a closer look at what affects our endurance.

After orgasm, the body goes through something called the ‘refractory period’, a phenomenon which is more pronounced in men. It’s the recovery period after a peak in arousal, where the body releases relaxation hormones (such as prolactin), thus provoking a moment where it’s temporarily impossible to get an erection. The length of the refractory period varies from person to person, ranging from a few minutes up to a few hours.

This is not necessarily the case for women, who don’t experience refractory periods in the same way. Some women can therefore enjoy multiple orgasms, or continue the sexual fun almost immediately, provided that they’re still aroused.

There are other factors that can influence endurance: physical health, sleep quality, stress, hormones, and even diet. To sum it up, endurance isn’t a fixed thing, and just like a muscle it can be trained and worked on.

Yes, although not everyone can, and not all the time either. It all depends on your body, desire levels, and the context of the moment. Certain people still feel aroused enough after the first round to get hard again, or to have another orgasm soon after.

The key is knowing how to manage the refractory period. The shorter it is, the easier it is to go again. Your mental state is equally important: the bond between you and your partner, coupled with emotional stimulation, can rekindle things quicker than you think.

Some couples like to prolong the fun without necessarily aiming to go again, by continuing to kiss and touch each other, or by exploring other erogenous zones. This sort of sensual yet gentle stimulation helps to maintain arousal and delay the refractory period.

There’s no need to be a top athlete, endurance relies on knowing your body and managing the rhythm. Try breathing and slowing things down. Slow sex and taking your time between rounds will keep the mood sensual and help you to continue performing.

Make sure to work your pelvic muscles. Kegel exercises and contracting the perineum helps you to maintain control and delay ejaculation.

Live a generally healthy life. Good sleep, a balanced diet, and exercise all improve blood circulation and libido.

Listen to your body, sometimes it needs a break. There’s no point forcing things if your energy levels or desire levels aren’t up to the task.

There are some accessories that can help to maintain or rekindle arousal between rounds:

• Cock rings maintain erections and delay ejaculation.
• Clit stimulators to keep giving pleasure to one partner whilst the other gets their breath back.
• Heating gels or delay sprays to play around with sensations and prolong those sensual moments.
• Couple's sex toys for you to remain connected to your partner without always resorting to penetration.
  

We’ve determined that your physical state matters, but it’s important to note that mental state does too. Mental arousal, trust, and communication all naturally increase desire. A relaxed atmosphere, a few laughs, some knowing glances… all of these things stimulate the brain and make maintaining arousal easier.

Couples that are able to talk openly about their desires, limits, and rhythms often find a better balance between length and intensity. Endurance tends therefore to be linked more to connection than to performance capabilities.

Going multiple rounds isn’t a performance contest. It’s a question of listening, bond-building, and shared desire. Some days your body will be raring and ready to go again and again… other days once is enough. What really matters isn’t the number of times you have sex, but the quality of the act itself.