Can You Have Sex on Your Period?

Nowadays, more and more couples are willing to talk openly about sex and menstruation, whether that’s to break down taboos, better understand the menstrual cycle, or simply to enjoy a more freeing sex life. Whatever the reason, having your period isn’t an ‘intrusion’ on your sex life, simply a phase of your cycle like any other, with its own specificities and sensations to take into account… and sometimes even with its advantages.

For those who suffer from painful periods, endometriosis, or other gynaecological problems, make sure to listen to your body and adapt when it comes to sex i.e., adjust positions and intensity. The most important thing is that you’re comfortable, pain-free, and that sex is something you’re sure you want.

While period sex may be taboo for many, there are some benefits to having sex during your period.

Menstrual blood acts as a natural lubricant, making penetration easier.

Although the risk is lower, it is not impossible to fall pregnant during your period. Ovulation is not the same for all women and predicting your fertile period is sometimes uncertain. Plus, sperm can live for up to four days in your body, so fertilisation is always possible. Don’t forget to continue taking your usual contraceptive methods , regardless of your cycle.

In many societies, menstrual blood is often associated with impurity. Make sure your partner is aware of the natural, non-dangerous, totally healthy thing that is your menstrual cycle, this can help to debunk the notion of impurity.

Making love in the shower may reassure your partner and make the experience “cleaner” in their eyes.

If you find that you can't convince your partner, don't force them. The most important thing is to establish open communication about the matter.

If the idea of penetration makes your partner uncomfortable, don’t worry as there are many other ways to explore intimacy: through caresses, massages, mutual masturbation, oral sex if you’re both okay with that, or simply a cuddle.

If you’d prefer to avoid all direct contact with blood, try placing a dark piece of clothing or a dental dam between the genitals and the mouth. These are great middle men that provide a hygienic layer of reassurance.