Cake and Cunnilingus Day: Celebrating Female Pleasure

Although still relatively unknown to the general public, Cake and Cunnilingus Day has gained a cult following on the internet as well as in the sex positivity scene.

Created as a comical response to another popular internet day (steak and blowjob day), nowadays, it highlights the importance of female pleasure in intimacy. So where does this celebration come from and why is it celebrated on the 14th of April?

For a long time, women’s pleasure has been under-represented and under-discussed in conversations about sexuality. Nowadays, as mentalities evolve, days like this one help to make society progress by inviting couples to take the time to explore and celebrate female pleasure.

The exact origin of Cake and Cunnilingus Day remains difficult to pinpoint, but we do know that it first appeared in the early 2000s on the internet.

It was thought up as a humoristic response to steak and blowjob day (celebrated on March 14th), another unofficial internet day. The latter is known for playing into masculine stereotypes, focusing on two things men ‘typically’ enjoy: steak and blowjobs .

So one month after, Cake and Cunnilingus Day serves as a way to even the score by focusing on feminine pleasure. The cake part of things plays on the indulgent, festive side of things, whilst the cunnilingus part focuses on the things we already evoked previously.

Over time, the concept has made the rounds in different parts of the internet, through forums, blogs and social media, to become a part of the sex positive calendar.

Nowadays, cunnilingus is considered an important practice in many people’s intimate lives. It plays a central role in the exploration of female pleasure, especially as it focuses on the prime pleasure organ: the clitoris .

Contrary to popular belief, the majority of women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. Oral sex is a great way to provide a person with intense sensations and explore alternative forms of pleasure.

Besides the purely physical aspect of things, cunnilingus can also increase intimacy between partners. It invites us to take our time, pay attention to our partner’s reactions, and create a moment of intimacy that’s based on trust and communication. To this end, Cake and Cunnilingus Day is almost a pretext to remind us that a fulfilling sex life relies on curiosity, communication and the attention you pay to yours and your partner’s pleasure.

Although it’s mostly symbolic as a day, some couples take the opportunity to turn the 14th of April into a special occasion.

The first idea is simply to take your time. In the often hectic day-to-day, sex can sometimes feel rushed or monotonous. You can use this day as an excuse to slow down, concentrate on sensations and rediscover each other's bodies.

Spend some time setting the mood, this can also make all the difference. Dim the lights, put on some sensual music, give your partner a massage, or simply take some time to relax. All of this can help you to reconnect with each other, favouring an erotic atmosphere.

Some people also like to explore new facets of their sexuality through the use of couple's sex toys, perfect for boosting sensations and complimenting your intimate moments.

Cake and Cunnilingus Day is, above all, an unusual day, born out of humour and internet culture, but behind this provocative term hides a simple reminder: female pleasure deserves its rightful place in sex.

Whether you choose to celebrate, or the story has simply made you smile, the 14th of April can simply be considered a moment to slow down, reconnect with your partner and explore new facets of pleasure. After all, the most satisfying sex lives are built upon curiosity, communication and complicity.