A Beginner’s Guide to Facesitting

Facesitting is a sexual act that involves sitting on your partner's face. Facesitting is often associated with BDSM role play, where the Dom sits on the face of their sub to assert authority over them. However, it is perfectly possible to enjoy facesitting in more traditional sexual relationships.

There are many different ways to practice face sitting: performing cunnilingus , anilingus or even fellatio (if the partner doing the sitting is facing backwards). The aim? Offer intense stimulation all whilst playing with power relations, control and abandon. The face transforms into a throne, a place of adoration, devotion or simply just pure pleasure.

Doms love facesitting, as the act gives them total control over their sub. By sitting on their sub's face, they can control their partner’s breathing and even their movements. The dom, in turn, will be aroused by having to endure their Dom’s power.

There is also a physical factor that accounts for the pleasure of facesitting, especially the smell and heat of the genitals (or anus) of the seated partner. These stimuli will sharpen the sub’s senses and increase their desire. The sub is also in the perfect position to stimulate their partner’s genital or anus through oral sex (cunnilingus, fellatio, anilingus) or manual play.

This practice calls upon every sense of the lying partner: obstructed vision, rhythmic breathing, intense contact, humidity, taste… They become totally immersed in their partner's body, encouraging a trance-like state or complete and total abandon.

Facesitting is still considered taboo in certain circles, but it's certainly worth trying out, as it combines sensorial play with the excitement of doing something naughty.

The sub should lie on a comfortable bed or sofa. The Dom will then sit on the sub’s face. The Dom can hold on to the wall or headboard to keep his balance.

A tip from the LOVE TEAM: Slipping a cushion under the nape of the lying partner’s neck will allow them to better position their face and avoid any muscle strain. You can also vary positions: straddling, by reversing positions, or even squatting if you want to play around with intensity levels.

We recommend that you start slowly and then gradually increase the speed and rhythm of your movements. Don't forget to check with your partner that they’re enjoying the session. Stop immediately if you notice any discomfort or displeasure.

Before the session starts, decide on a safeword with your partner. If either partner utters the safeword during the session, everyone must stop what they’re doing immediately. To avoid any ambiguity, the chosen word should be totally random and have nothing to do with sex.

You could also try: Choose a specific gesture (tapping your partner twice, squeezing a thigh, etc.) if it’s too difficult to speak when the face is occupied.

After your session, share your impressions with your partner. Did you enjoy yourself, or did it make you feel uncomfortable? Would you like to do it again? What improvements could be made? It's important to listen to your partner and respect their feelings. The next session will be all the better for it!