Felching: The Ultimate Guide

In this article, the LOVE Team are taking a deep dive into felching, looking at why some people enjoy it, how to bring up the topic with a partner and how to reduce any possible risks during practice.

Felching is a term for when someone sucks the semen out of their partner’s vagina or anus after ejaculation. This can be done with direct mouth contact, or by using some sort of accessory.

Although this remains a niche sexual practice, it has found its place in the BDSM world and in certain scenarios centred on the handling of bodily fluids. For some people, it’s an extreme form of intimacy where, via a transgressive act, bonds between partners are strengthened.

Nevertheless, it’s important to remember that this practice is not an entry-level one. If exercised, then it should be done so consciously, with ample preparation and enthusiastic consent from everyone involved.

What attracts people to felching can differ from person to person. Some people see it as a strong intimate gesture linked to sharing bodily fluids, whilst others appreciate the transgressive side to felching, as the idea of doing something taboo can increase arousal.

In some cases, the practice takes on a particular psychological dimension when it forms part of a relationship of domination and submission . In this instance, pleasure is derived more so through the symbolism of the gesture than the physical act itself.

Whatever the reason may be, everybody experiences this practice differently and there’s no norm to be followed. The main rule is that felching (just like any other sexual practice), should be a desire that is shared and freely agreed upon by both partners.

Because it incorporates bodily fluid as a key part of play, felching involves some very real risks, specifically the transmission of STIs, such as HIV, hepatitis B and C, chlamydia or gonorrhoea. If practiced anally, then there’s also the added risk of bacteria being present that could cause infection.

Another risk is linked to the use of objects that aren’t adapted to sexual purposes, such as rigid straws or anything whose use is improvised. Such objects can cause micro-lesions or even internal injury. In other words, they’re a definite no no.

To minimise risks, it’s recommended that all partners get tested regularly, avoid practicing if any irritation, injuries or discomfort occur, and to maintain excellent oral and personal hygiene before and after the fact. Rigid devices must be prohibited; only flexible accessories designed for this purpose should be considered.

Even when taking precautions, it can never be a 100% risk-free practice. Make sure to always stay informed on the risks and protect your health above everything.

Bringing up such a taboo subject requires a bit of tact and delicacy. One way to do it can be to approach it as more of a reflection or a curiosity than an actual request. For example, you can simply ask your partner what they think about felching, thus creating a space for open discussion that’s free from judgement.

Some people are attracted to what felching symbolises, but don’t want to put themselves at risk. Luckily, it is entirely possible to explore this dynamic in other ways.

Games involving semen, without ingestion or suction, offer a safer alternative while retaining the intimate and transgressive aspect. Others prefer to simulate the practice without direct contact, or use sex toys designed to handle fluids hygienically.

For some couples, simply mentioning the practice in role play, a shared fantasy or dirty talk is enough to arouse excitement without ever crossing the line into actual contact.

Felching is an advanced erotic practice that demands incredible vigilance and flawless communication. Even though it may represent for some a gesture of intimacy or a source of arousal via transgression, it must always be approached with caution. By taking the time to learn, discuss openly, and respect each other's boundaries, it is possible to explore your desires in a safe, consensual, and responsible environment.