How to choose a dominance and submission toy

Ready to take the plunge into the world of dominance and submission, but don't know everything there is to know about the toys you'll need? The LOVE Team has put together this guide to help you choose the ideal D/s toy and enjoy the steamiest experience of your life.

BDSM includes bondage, dominance, submission and sadomasochism. These erotic games involve power relationships between consenting partners, respectively known as the Dom (the dominant partner) and the sub (the submissive partner). This steamy kind of bedroom play can take your sex life to the next level, but it’s important to have the right tools at your disposal.

The Dom controls the sub, imposing their instructions and exercising their authority over their partner. In these role-playing games, it is crucial to obtain the consent of the submissive partner. It is also essential that the relationship between the two partners is based on trust and communication in order to establish rules and boundaries that must never be crossed.

This guide will help you discover a wide range of D/s toys and choose the ones that suit you best. Collars, leashes, penis cages... the possibilities are endless. You're about to live out your most passionate fantasies... so read on!

What makes dominance and submission games so exciting?

  • A break from routine: You'll be able to share new experiences, develop your erotic potential and discover a new side of your partner...Once you've been introduced to the world of BDSM, your intimate life will never be the same again!
  • More variety: The wide range of toys available will allow you to switch up your sexual habits regularly, stimulate your imagination and keep both you and your partner coming back for more.
  • A change in roles: If you tend to be dominant in everyday life, why not reverse the roles and assume a submissive position for your erotic games, which will definitely surprise your partner and increase your excitement.
  • A stronger intimate bond: Playing games of dominance and submission means putting your complete trust into your partner’s hands. This introduction to intimate games, which require sincere exchanges and taboo-free communication, will strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

The first steps: a lead and a collar

For a gentle introduction to D/s play, opt for a lead and collar. Let the LOVE Team break things down for you:


The submissive partner can show their obedience by agreeing to wear a leather or metal collar. 

A heavy collar, decorated with BDSM flourishes (studs or spikes), can be worn during sex for even more excitement!


Once your partner is used to wearing a collar, attach a lead (metal or leather) to it: this will allow you to control their movements and enforce your dominance.

The next step: a penis cage

For couples who want to explore the D/S even more deeply, especially for the male sub, the use of a penis cage can be an intense and exciting experience.

A penis cage is a chastity device controlled by the Dom: it prevents the sub from achieving an erection or ejaculating. The Dom, who controls their sub's genitals as they see fit, then chooses to release him using the keys that come with each penis cage.

For even more exciting sensations, opt for a penis cage with an electro-stimulation function to punish your sub when he deserves it, or a penis cage with a urethral plug or probe.

For experts only: a chastity belt

More experienced couples will absolutely love using a chastity belt together.

Available in models for both men and women, they are usually made of metal and leather and fitted with a padlock, allowing the Dom, who holds the key, to control access to the Sub's most private areas, highlighting their authority.
You can buy a belt with additional features, such as an anal plug, to increase your control over your partner and to turn up the heat even more.
Don't forget that, as with all kinds of BDSM play, your partner's consent and respect is essential to any experience of this kind.
This buyer’s guide will help you discover the world of dominance and submission and enrich your erotic experience.
If you would like more information, feel free to contact us! The LOVE Team will give you all of our best advice to help you discover the world of dominance and submission in the best possible conditions.