How to Use an Anal Spreader

An anal spreader is designed to gradually stretch the anus, whether you’re preparing for anal play or to give your partner a unique view of your most private area.

We recommend that beginners start with a smaller model and gradually work their way up to a spreader with a larger diameter.

Read on to learn how to best enjoy your new anal spreader!

All the best sessions start by choosing the perfect toy. If you’re a beginner, it’s best to start with a small anal spreader that’s easy to insert and control. A simple model with a modest opening and a secure locking mechanism (like a central screw or a lever) will allow you to familiarise yourself with these new sensations without feeling rushed.

The material used also plays an important role in your choice. Medical grade silicone is supple and pleasant to the touch, whereas stainless steel is more rigid and offers precise insertion and easy cleaning. What remains key is that the spreader is designed specifically for anal use, with a trustworthy locking system and a shape that’s well adapted to your anatomy.

Take the time to find a model that you can trust and that arouses your interest: this is the first step in successful anal spreading play.

Begin by relaxing, perhaps with a warm bath or some deep breathing exercises. Foreplay is also a good way to ease yourself into the experience.

• If you’re alone, lie on your back and lift and spread your legs. That way, you can control the insertion of the spreader perfectly. You can also lie on your side and bend one leg up to reach your anus more easily.
• If you’re with a partner, get on all fours to give them easy access to your anus. 

Remember, the best position is the one that suits you most, so try various positions to find what makes you feel entirely at ease.

Insert the spreader gently. Place the end against your anus and relax your muscles, pushing as if you were going to the toilet. Slowly continue pushing the spreader into your anus. If you feel any resistance, take a break. Only start again when you feel ready.

Once you’ve inserted your anal spreader, you can then enjoy the sensations you're about to experience.

• With a partner, you can explore a new kind of erotic stimulation, strengthening your intimate bond.
• If you’re flying solo, wear your spreader throughout the day to get used to the new sensations.

Above all, listen to your body and remove the spreader if you feel uncomfortable. Trust yourself and take your time.

Get back into the same position you were in during insertion—on your back, side, or all fours. Keep the spreader in line with your anus and rectum and pull it out slowly. Use some lube if necessary. Do not rush the process and take the time needed to remove the spreader at your own rhythm.