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Not all sexual practices focus on penetration, some are all about proximity and power play. When it comes to alternative ways of having sex, the smotherbox does just this. Curious to learn more? Let’s get into it.
Between domination, trust and intense sensory experiences, the smotherbox is an interesting erotic concept that requires you to be curious, but also communicative. Let’s find out what exactly a smotherbox is and why some couples love it.
What is the Smotherbox?
A smotherbox is a piece of BDSM furniture designed for a person to sit on whilst receiving oral from a partner whose head is ‘locked’ inside.
It can be considered a more extreme variant of facesitting, a popular way of enjoying oral stimulation, as it involves a higher level of domination and a more acute power dynamic, due to its locked in aspect.
It has plenty of fans in BDSM fetish circles, but that’s not to say that certain couples don’t enjoy including it in their bedroom dynamic, as a way to explore new sensations.
Why Some Couples Love the Smotherbox
As with many practices linked to domination and submission, the smotherbox is rooted in a mix of physical sensations paired with a strong psychological dynamic.
For some people, the intense physical proximity to their partner makes them aroused. Skin contact, their partner’s scent, their heat and body weight… all of this comes together to create a rich sensory experience.
For others, it’s the
power play
that attracts them. The sitting person feels in control, whilst the person underneath practices abandon. This type of experience can only work, however, when mutual trust and strong bonds are present within a couple.
Finally, there is also the fantasy aspect: some people simply enjoy the idea of very physical forms of domination or intense intimate contact.
How to Practice Smotherboxing Safely
As with any practice involving restraints and physical pressure, smotherboxing requires caution and communication to be consistently practiced by everyone involved.
Before you do anything, make sure you and your partner talk through every detail. Everyone needs to feel at ease with what’s going to happen, as well as be able to give clear limits. In the BDSM world, choosing a safeword is a common practice. In this context, a hand signal may be a good way of letting your partner know if play needs to be stopped at any given moment.
It’s important to monitor breathing. The pressure on the submissive partner should never completely stop them from being able to breathe, and the person doing the sitting should always keep an eye on their partner’s reactions throughout play.
If you’re just starting out, then take things easy. Try out different positions and pressure levels to try and find what’s comfortable and fun for you both.
Accessories and Ideas to Spice up Smotherbox Play
For couples feeling like they want to take things a step further, there are a few accessories that can make the experience even more immersive.
Evidently, smotherboxes are furniture that are specially designed for this practice. You can practice smotherboxing using a chair or a bench, but these pieces make the whole experience more immersive, reinforcing that power dynamic.
Handcuffs and restraints can have a similar effect on the power dynamic, as long as both partners are okay with this added level of discipline.
Sometimes textured clothing is great if you want another sensory aspect to play. Things like latex, lacy lingerie or mesh accessories can all stimulate the sensitive skin of the genitals and/or face.
Of course, these accessories aren’t must-haves if you want to enjoy smotherboxing. A lot of couples have fun without breaking the bank on loads of specific gear, simply by concentrating on the intensity of the practice and the proximity it affords.
As with a lot of atypical sexual practices, the smotherbox may intrigue you, fascinate you, or simply not interest you. No matter the reaction, it’s completely normal. Your sex life is a place for you to explore and discover what you like, at your own rhythm and in your own way.
Whilst some couples find it an intense, highly enjoyable experience combining intimacy and power play, others may prefer to explore different practices. No matter what you choose, the key principles remain the same: communicate, respect each other’s boundaries and prioritise consent so that pleasure remains shared.
